How to Be Happy Always..!!

How to Be Happy Always..!!

Being happy can be really hard sometimes especially when your problems are staring you in the face.
It is easier to tell another to cheer up, be strong and all that but when it gets to us taking our own advise it can be really hard.
Getting over ourselves is what we need to do often in other to live happy.
What I mean by getting over ourselves is for us to realize that:
1. 1. The world does not revolve around us; we are not the center of the universe. Everybody you meet is more interested in themselves than they are in you.
If you will be happy you have to make yourself happy. Don't wait for or look to anyone to make you happy.
2. We are part of this fallen world and nothing is perfect or fair, bad things happen to everybody even good people.
Knowing this should help us not to take things too personally, bad things happening is a part of life.
3. Good things also happen to everybody.
If we get sincere with ourselves we will discover that we have even had more than our fair share of good things.
4. Decide to focus more on the good stuff that have happened to you instead of the bad stuff.
Know that whatever terrible thing it is that is happening now will pass and the good side of life will turn our way soon.
Getting over ourselves makes life richer, it is a must if we have decided to be happy people enjoying every moment of our existence here on earth.
Discouragement assails us every time, getting over ourselves becomes a very good technique to get a hang on it.
Happiness is a journey and not a destination. Let not stay grouchy hoping to get to our happiness someday. Happiness is here and now so makes it happen.

How to over come you’re Problems

How to over come you’re Problems


Are you someone who worries all of the time, afraid of saying the wrong thing or overly concerned with how you look? You are not alone. Only in USA there are more than 19 million people classified as chronic worriers. And people who worry almost every day six months or longer, 80 percent become depressed and stay depressed for years.

Worry is a many-headed beast, like the Hydra - it’s hard to stop it at your first attempt, but if you are persistent and try several different techniques, you can overcome it in the end. There is a lot of excellent research on the nature of worry as well as how to get control of it. What follows are 20 tips to conquer those worries, try them and you may have less mental baggage to carry around all day:

Steps to Over come your problems:

1. Get ‘out of your head’ with some physical activity.

The benefits of exercise on mental health are priceless. It is a great way to get ‘out of your head’ and recover a feeling of calmness and mental clarity. You’ll get most benefit from a really good workout, but any physical activity that engages your senses can make a difference - washing the dishes, walking down the road for a pint of milk, enjoying a hot bath or making something with your hands.

These activities provide a natural way to release tension in the body and will often lead to an automatic state of relaxation that naturally follows a good workout. You’ll feel significantly better than before, it will be easier to stay present and centered in your body and you’ll be much less prone to get lost in worry.

2. Distinguish productive from unproductive worry.

Ask yourself, “what is the advantage that I hope to get in worrying?” Some worriers believe that simply having a thought - “I can fail” - means that they should wont about it. They think that worry will prepare, motivate, and keep them from ever being surprised.

If I am going to fly from New York to Paris, productive worry involves action that I can take now. For instance, I can purchase my airline ticket and reserve a hotel room. Unproductive worry involves all the what-ifs that I cannot do anything about: What if my scheduled talk does not go well? What if I get lost in Paris?

3. Get more comfortable making mistakes.

If you’re a perfectionist and you often agonize over making mistakes before and after events, try to get more comfortable making those mistakes. Burn the toast on its edges or let conversations lag from time to time without always filling in the silence.

4. A problem shared is a problem halved.

Some of your problems are bad enough without all the guilt and self-blame that usually goes hand in hand with worrying. No man is an island; we all need other people. Don’t be too proud to ask for a bit of support and understanding from those around you. There are many areas where talking about a problem or merely getting it out solves the problem. So talk to someone you trust about your situation and how you feel about it. The chances are they won’t be nearly so hard on you as you are on yourself. They may not have all the answers, but it will be a relief to get your feelings off your chest, and help to put things into perspective.

5. Correct faulty thinking by assessing real danger.

If you’re always assuming the worst possible outcome - “I’m going to run out of gas,” or “If I’m late for work, I might get fired,” - try to correct your faulty thinking by assessing real danger. What are the odds of running out of gas? People are often late without disastrous consequences.

6. Accept reality and commit to change.

Research shows that worriers cannot tolerate uncertainty, treating it as if it was a sure negative. Ironically, 85% of the things that worriers worry about turn out to have a positive outcome, and even when the outcome is negative, 79% of the time worriers end up saying, “I handled that better than I thought I would.” Demanding certainty is hopeless. Instead, look for the advantages of having some uncertainty. These include novelty, surprise, challenge, change, and growth. Otherwise, life is boring.

7. Do not read bad news or watch the news before bedtime.

Sadly enough, most news are bad news. So if you are prone to worries you should not get involved in these bad news before going to sleep. Instead try reading a pleasant book or listening to some nice music. Try to relax with any method you like (a brisk walk, a glass of milk, sex).

8. Reclaim your imagination.

Creative people are usually particularly prone to worry. If you think about it, worry takes a lot of imagination. It’s as though your “inner film director” is running amok, churning out paranoid thrillers or ghastly horror movies about all the awful things that could happen to you. But instead of trying to ignore these internal images, why not “re-direct” them as different genres (comedy? romance?) and add a happy ending for you to look forward to? Imagine your current situation as just one chapter of an inspiring story about overcoming challenges - how does that change the way you feel about it?

9. Face failure and don’t view it as personal rejection.

Worriers feel that failure is unacceptable - and that everything can be viewed as a possible failure. If you go to a party and someone is not friendly, then you have failed, when I was in college. Here is a nice story: There was a guy who wrote a term paper for an economics course. It was a plan for an overnight mailing service. His professor gave him a low grade. “This is unrealistic. It will never work,” the instructor maintained. That guy graduated from college and became the founder of Federal Express.

10. Challenge your worried thinking.

Worriers have thought-reality fusion. The thought process goes something like this, “If I think I might get rejected, it will turn out to be true unless I worry about it and do everything to be sure it does not happen.” Worries are like obsessions in this sense: worriers treat their thoughts like they already are facts. Typical thinking errors include mind reading (he thinks I am a loser), jumping to conclusions (I don’t know something, therefore I will fail), emotional reasoning (I feel nervous, so things will not work out), perfectionism (I need to be perfect to be confident), and discounting the positive (the fact that I have done well in the past is not a guarantee of anything). Worriers also have sudden-emergency ideas, such as slippery slope thinking (if this trend continues, things could go downhill in a real hurry) or trap door mentality (I could make a mistake and my whole life could fall apart).

In response, worriers should challenge and test out their thinking: What is the worst, best, and most likely outcome? What are ‘all the things that I could do to deal with a real problem? Is there any evidence that things could turn out okay? Am I making the same incorrect predictions that I always do?

11. Do not work until late hours.

If you are still involved in work or unpleasant activities (finances, unpleasant correspondence) you will not be able to relax. So reserve a time of at least two to three hours to find rest and reserve this time for some pleasant activities.

12. Try ‘Parrot on your shoulder’ technique.

Worry is like a parrot sitting on your shoulder - jabbering on about all the awful things that could happen to you, how dreadful they will be and how little you can do to prevent them. Spend too long listening to the parrot and you start to believe it. But worry is only a small part of your mind, and not the most resourceful part either.

So next time the Parrot starts jabbering away in your ear, stop and listen to it for a moment - don’t try to block it out, just listen to the anxious Parrot-like voice, and recognize that it’s not you and it’s not telling you the truth about you or your situation. Look around you, move around and reconnect with your body - all the while keeping the Parrot’s voice in your awareness without getting caught up in it. A bit like when you have the radio on in the background, but you’re not really listening to it - the sound goes in and out of your awareness, without capturing your attention. The more you practice doing this, the more worry will fade into the background, the clearer your thinking will be and the calmer you will feel.

13. Restrain yourself, and start trusting your judgment.

You check and recheck. Next time you put your keys in your purse, but keep checking - restrain yourself, and ultimately you’ll start trusting your judgment. And keep in mind that it’s OK to make mistakes, or forget something once in a while.

14. Look at the deeper threat.

Personality plays a role in the problem of worrying. People differ from one another in what they worry about. Some are obsessed about money, others about health, and still others about what society thinks of them. Cognitive therapies techniques help modify these concerns. Is there any real advantage in thinking in such perfectionist and demanding terms? What would be the upside in cutting you a little slack? How about treating yourself like a human being?

Moreover, you can ask yourself what advice you would give a friend, or set up experiments where you do not ask for reassurance or act perfectly, or you spend time alone (if you think you always need someone). What will happen if you do not get reassurance? Will it really make any difference? You also can practice writing assertive statements to the parent or friend who taught you to believe all these negative things about yourself. These “messages” do not have to be sent, but it can be helpful to hem-yourself defending your right not to live up to the demanding and critical views of others.

15. Write down your concerns and worries in a journal.

Reserve a time for your worries and concerns at daytime. So you should try to develop a routine and reserved time for all the concerns and problems of the day. By writing your worries you will identify your common negative thoughts and worries. It will be much easier to find solutions when you’ll know the exact content and meaning of your worries.

Take your time for these worries but not in the evening. The best time might be late afternoon. Sit down with a journal and write down your concerns of the day. This will take at least 30 to 60 minutes. Force yourself to think about all the worries and problems of the past and coming day.

16. Think about a present event of the day.

After all the time for the worries you should stop the diary with at least one pleasant event of the day. Any nice story, any pleasant event of the day? Any “sunshine” in your life?

17. Put time on your side.

Finally, worriers think that some bad event is approaching rapidly. They just know that failure, rejection, financial rain, or life-threatening illness - or maybe all of these things - is right around the corner. Everything is an emergency: “I need to know right now,” is their mantra. They wake up in the middle of the night thinking about the potential disasters that next week may bring. Of course, it often is impossible to know “right now” what the future holds, so worriers worry that this is a bad sign.

18. Get some specialist advice.

Worry loves a vacuum - in the absence of facts, it creates all kinds of dire scenarios. So whether your worries are financial, professional, medical or otherwise, get some advice from a trustworthy specialist, who can give you an informed opinion and help you devise some practical options. They may surprise you with unexpected solutions or they may confirm the worst - but either way you’ll be dealing with facts and concrete options, and you should come away with clear “next steps” towards a solution.

19. Use your emotions rather than worry about them.

Research shows that worry is a form of emotional avoidance, When people engage in worry, they are activating the thinking part of their brain and not allowing themselves to feel emotion. In fact, when people are engaged in worry, they temporarily are less emotionally aroused.

20. Make a plan and take action.

Worry is fuelled by inaction, but once you’ve assessed your options, got some practical advice and devised a plan, you’re in a position to start taking action. And once you do that, it becomes much easier to stop worrying. The Chinese say that the journey of 10,000 miles starts with a single step - and once you’ve taken that step, you’re on the road to a solution, even if it’s a long and difficult one.

If you start putting your plan into action and don’t feel any reduction in your worry levels, then the chances are you’re not very confident about your plan - so it may be worth getting some more information or advice to revise the plan.

All of us have a certain personality style. Some people think they have to be perfect. Others think they have to be loved by everybody. Your worry is probably related to your core personality issues. So you really need to get in touch with that. You can turn failure into opportunity. It’s not a breakdown. It’s a breakthrough.

How to overcome smoking

How to overcome smoking


"Quit Smoking" is the slogan of the hour. We all know that smoking is hazardous to your health. It has very severe ill effects, such as respiratory problems, lung cancer, breast cancer, bronchitis, emphysema, etc. It is thus the need of the hour that we should free ourselves from the clutches of this deadly disease. But it is not an easy task to actually quit smoking completely once a person has started it. Smoking makes a person its slave and he or she becomes addicted to its use.

It is difficult but not impossible to quit smoking. The most important attribute that a person needs to have to quit smoking is self-belief and persistence. It is difficult to stay away from smoking in the initial stages, but with the help of proper medical aid and strong will power - you can overcome the initial stages.

Steps to overcome smoking:

Here are 11 ways to kick off your journey and finally overcome smoking:


1. First sit down and write down why you want to quit (the benefits of quitting): live longer, feel better, for your family, save money, smell better, find a mate more easily, etc. You know what's bad about smoking and what you'll get by quitting. Put it on paper and read it daily.

2. Ask your family and friends to support your decision to quit. Ask them to be completely supportive and non-judgmental. Let them know ahead of time that you will probably be irritable and even irrational while you withdraw from your smoking habit.

3. Set a quit date. Decide what day you will extinguish your cigarettes forever.

4. Talk with your doctor about quitting. Support and guidance from a physician is a proven way to better your chances to quit.


5. Begin an exercise program. Exercise is simply incompatible with smoking. Exercise relieves stress and helps your body recover from years of damage from cigarettes.

6. Do some deep breathing each day for 3 to 5 minutes. Breathe in through your nose very slowly, hold your breath for a few seconds, and exhale very slowly through your mouth.

7. Have your teeth cleaned. Enjoy the way your teeth look and feel and plan to keep them that way.

8. Drink lots of water. Water is good for you anyway, and most people don't get enough. It will help flush the nicotine and other chemicals out of your body, plus it can help reduce cravings by fulfilling the "oral desires" that you may have.

9. Learn what triggers your desire for a cigarette, such as stress, the end of a meal, arrival at work, entering a bar, etc. Avoid these triggers or if that's impossible, plan alternative ways to deal with the triggers.

10. Find something to hold in your hand and mouth to replace cigarettes. You might try an artificial cigarette.

11. Finally, believe in yourself. Believe that you can quit. Think about some of the most difficult things you have done in your life and realize that you have the guts and determination to quit smoking.

How to make an effective Oral Presentation

How to make an effective Oral Presentation

Oral Presentation is an important and effective way of communicating your ideas and plans to your target audience. Oral presentations are often used to present information, thoughts, lessons etc. at educational institutions, business organizations, government meetings, seminars, conferences and at scientific meetings, therefore, it is necessary to acquire some basic knowledge to be eligible for oral presentation to your target audience.
Normally, as a general perception, it can be difficult to speak in front of a group and it is especially hard for the first time. There may be some mistakes which are part of the learning process. It should be kept in mind that any questions that you are asked by the listeners or audience are not meant to take personally. So, don’t be afraid of questions, they are in fact intended to further the understanding of your presentation.

The presentation should be organized in the best possible manner similar to the scientific reports, with general categories for example Introduction, Material and Methods, Results, and Discussion/Conclusion.

In fact, a good oral presentation is an art that involves attention to the needs of your audience, careful planning and attention to delivery. Some basic questions to ask about an audience include:

Who is target audience?

What prior information they already have about my topic?

What will they further want to know about my topic?

What do I want them to know by the end of my presentation?

In an effective presentation, the content and structure are adjusted to the medium of speech. When listening, we cannot go back over a difficult point to understand it or easily absorb long arguments. A presentation can easily be ruined if the content is too difficult and complicated for the audience to follow.

As a general rule, expect to cover much less content than you would in a written report. Make difficult points easier to understand by preparing the listener for them, using plenty of examples and going back over them later. Leave sufficient time for questions within the presentation.

Always give presentation a simple look and logical structure. Include an introduction in which you outline the points you intend to cover and a conclusion in which you go over the main points of your talk.

There may be very few peoples having ability to speak confidently in public, but in usual, everyone gets nervous but in fact everyone can learn how to improve their presentation skills by applying a few simple techniques.

The main points to pay attention to in delivery are the quality of your voice, your appearance, your rapport with the audience, use of notes and effective and attractive use of visual aids. Voice quality involves attention to volume, speed and fluency, clarity and pronunciation. The quality of your voice in a presentation will improve dramatically if you are able to practice before final presentation.

Rapport with the audience involves attention to eye contact, sensitivity to how the audience is responding to your talk and what you look like from the point of view of the audience. These can be improved by practicing in front of one or two friends or videotaping your rehearsal or just standing in front of mirror like most of the actors do.
Good speakers vary a great deal in their use of notes. Some do not use notes at all and some write out their talk in great detail. If you are not an experienced speaker it is not a good idea to speak without notes because you will soon lose your continuity. You should also avoid reading a prepared text aloud or memorizing your speech, as this will be boring. The best solution may be to use notes with headings and points to be covered. You may also want to write down key sentences. Notes can be on paper or cards. Some speakers use overhead transparencies as notes. The trick in using notes is to avoid shift your attention from the audience for too long. Your notes should always be written large enough for you to see without moving your head too much.

Visual aids help to make a presentation livelier. They can also help the audience to follow your presentation and help you to present information that would be difficult to follow through speech alone.

Summary
Oral Presentation is an important and effective way of communicating your ideas and plans to your target audience. Oral presentations are often used to present information, thoughts, lessons etc. at educational institutions, business organizations, government meetings, seminars, conferences and at scientific meetings, therefore, it is necessary to acquire some basic knowledge to be eligible for oral presentation to your target audience. Some basic questions to ask about an audience include:

Who is target audience?

In an effective presentation, the content and structure are adjusted to the medium of speech. Leave sufficient time for questions within the presentation.

Always give presentation a simple look and logical structure. The quality of your voice in a presentation will improve dramatically if you are able to practice before final presentation.

Rapport with the audience involves attention to eye contact, sensitivity to how the audience is responding to your talk and what you look like from the point of view of the audience. Some speakers use overhead transparencies as notes. The trick in using notes is to avoid shift your attention from the audience for too long.
Visual aids help to make a presentation livelier.

How to Achieve Goals

How to Achieve Goals
It’s not surprising that people who establish goals achieve more than those who don’t. Learning how to establish and achieve goals is one of the keys to success at work and in one’s personal life. Here is an approach to help you achieve goals that should enable you to fulfill your potential.

Steps:
Here are following steps to achieve your goals quicker..
1. Step 1
Think about What You Want to Accomplish. What do you want to accomplish in education? Think what goals you might formulate in each of these areas and how you might achieve those goals. Success is more likely when you think through what it is that you want to accomplish.
2. Step 2
Establish Realistic Goals. In each important area of your life and work, set realistic goals. A goal is something you want to accomplish by a certain date. Goals need to be measurable and timed so that you can hold yourself accountable as well as motivate effort. In order for you to achieve goals they must be realistic. If you don’t get the goals right at first, keep trying until you do. Your success depends on making your goals achievable.
3. Step 3
Generate Strategies to Achieve Your Goals. Once you have established your goals you’ll need to assess how you will accomplish them. General approaches are termed strategies. Diet and exercise are broad strategies for achieving weight loss goals. Strategies to achieve goals like getting a promotion at work might be putting in extra hours or getting additional education. Success at work and in life doesn’t come easily for most of us. Sound strategies and sustained effort are required.
4. Step 4
Develop Action Plans. Once you have decided on broad strategies designed to achieve goals you’ve established, you’ll probably need to develop specific action plans to keep you on track and to make sure that your efforts are capable of succeeding. Action plans consist of tasks (with budget and timing) you’ll need to accomplish to implement your strategies and achieve your goals. See the Resources section for an article on how to successfully develop an action plan.
5. Step 5
Implement Your Plans. When implementing the plans to achieve goals you’ve set, be careful not to take on more than you can reasonably do. Not only do your goals need to be realistic, the number of goals and activities that you pursue simultaneously need to be limited to be realistic as well. A best practice might be to make real progress on one goal and action plan in an area such as work before implementing another. This sequential approach raises the chance for success by avoiding overload.
6. Step 6
Monitor Your Progress. Because your goals are measurable, you should be able to track the progress you are making to achieve the goals you are pursuing. Where progress is falling short you’ll need to either revise your plan or adjust the goal, or perhaps both. Don’t get discouraged; take corrective action. Success often requires adjustments as we go.
7. Step 7
Manage Your Motivation. You will most likely encounter disappointments and setbacks. That’s normal in work and in life. But you will get much further by having goals and plans than if you didn’t. Always remember that fact. Frequently review your goals and visualize the rewards for accomplishing them. If you need help maintaining a positive attitude see the article in the Resources Section on “How to Be More Positive.”

21 Secrets to Becoming A Good Speaker

Not just giving formal talks talks….
Discuss ideas of a project.
Influence a friend, colleague, or boss.
Tell people what you did, and why it matters.
Get people’s “mindshare”.

Presentation skills can be acquired.
Anybody can be a good speaker!
Examples:
Bill Gates
Kai-Fu Lee

Communication skills.
Preparing the Talk.
Delivering the Talk.
Handling Q&A.
21 secrets to becoming a good speaker.

Communication skills. 7%
Preparing the Talk. 38%
Delivering the Talk. 55%
Handling Q&A.


“Without effective delivery,
a speech of the highest mental capacity
can be held in no esteem.With effective delivery,
even one with moderate abilities may
surpass those of the highest talent.”
-- Cicero

“The man who can think and does not know
how to express what he thinks
is at the level of him who cannot think.”
-- Pericles

Speaking is not like writing!!!
Use simple words.
Don’t use complex sentences.
Can you understand this:
Text:
The development of this frightful means of destruction was ardently demanded by the perils of the time and situation. Simultaneously, however, a new paradoxical situation has been…. is upon us continually. One cannot defend oneself effectively any more.

Project & resonate your voice.
No “UM”s and “ER”s. (Pause instead).
Silence is a tool (To draw attention).

Play your voice with pitch and tempo.
To amplify a point, slow down, speak loudly, exaggerate intonation, pause in the right places.
“You are right. I am wrong.” – Stalin to Trotsky
“Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country.” -- John F. Kennedy
BAD EXAMPLE : “I welcome this kind of examination, because people have to know whether their president is a crook. Well, I’m not a crook.” -- Richard M. Nixon
Don’t use it everywhere!

John Kennedy:
“You need to contribute to your country”’
“Ask not what your country can do for you; ask what you can do for your country”.
Quayle vs. Benson Debate:
Quayle: "I have as much experience in the Congress as Jack Kennedy did when he sought the presidency."
Answer 1: “Jack Kennedy is better than you.”
Answer 2: "Senator, I served with Jack Kennedy. I knew Jack Kennedy. Jack Kennedy was a friend of mine. Senator, you're no Jack Kennedy.“

Visual Skills – THE most important:
Appear trustworthy & respectful.
US Election 1960 was won on visual skills.
Components of Visual Skills:
Eyes.
Body.
Hands.
Face.
Look forward at audience (trust).
Don’t shift eyeballs; don’t look in corner.
Don’t look too much at computer screen or your notes.
Look at people’s faces (not eyes).
3-6 seconds per person.
Shift randomly.
Nod, smile, use facial expression.

Stand up when talking.
Walk around = informal.
Don’t:
Rock, shake, lean too much.

Gesture complements talk.
Should come naturally, without thinking.
Make sure they match!
Need to exaggerate a little
Especially with large audience.
Don’t fidget or put in pocket.
Videotape whole talk & watch.
Can improve hand gesturing!

Show emotion!
Most of the time:
“I care a lot about this.”
“I really believe in this.”
“I love my work.”
Sometimes (in response to questions).
“This is the most outrageous thing I’ve ever heard.”
“I will have nothing to do with this.”

You’re the salesman.
First lesson for salesmen:
“Tell them what you’re going to say.
Say it.
Tell them what you said”
Very similar to a term/research paper!

People will not remember everything.
Have ONE clear walk-away message.
What do you want people to remember in 3 months?
The answer to the question: “How was the talk?”
Repeat it!

Say something provoking!
Give a (very short) outline/overview.

End with a BANG!
Repeat the message.
Say thank you.

Preparation (80% time)
First prepare outline (recommend : Word).
Then modify outline for:
Logic, convincing, flow, transitions….
Actual Slide Writing (20% time)
Should come almost directly from the outline.

Visuals only support your talk.
Spend more time on your talk!
Simple and clear.
1 idea; 3 sub-concepts; <= 6 lines.
Readable – Big & color-coordinated.
Use 2 colors if you are not color-coordinated!
Don’t read from the slides!

Don’t lose people.
Use grayed out outline.
If idea is complex:
Try really hard to avoid complex slides, but…
If you must use it, use layers (prevent read-ahead & lack of focus).
Use right types of animation (natural, not ostentatious).
Remember to change slides for printing.
Example….
Keeps the talk interesting.
Don’t overdo it.
Should be tied to content.
Ordering :
2,N, N-1, N-2,….3, 1

Record & listen to every talk at least twice!
Record:
Best : PowerPoint features.
OK : Tape recorder.
Must do sometime :
Video
Ask experienced speaker to critique.
Improve:
Style, logic, timing per slide.

Running out of time is a disaster.
Write how much time should remain on each slide.
After you’re more experienced….
No longer necessary to record.
Every new talk still must be rehearsed.
Bring notes if you aren’t confident.

Perfect English not necessary.
Know your limitations.
Don’t use fancy words, complex sentences.
Don’t take any chance of looking silly.
OK to bring cheat notes!

Always make an outline.
PowerPoint notes; Word Outline.
Don’t have to use it.
It may be best to READ a speech.
No excuse not to be fluent! (practice!)
Don’t stare at paper.
(Memorize it if you’re prefer).

“Do the thing you fear
and the death of fear is certain.”

Audience Participation

Best way for people to remember!
Ask audience a question.
Anticipate their answer(s)!
Respond with something interesting AND relevant.

Be Yourself
Learn the skills; don’t copy the styles.
You must be yourself to be credible.
Many styles could be effective:
Bill Gates – Brilliant technologist.
Steve Ballmer – Powerful salesman.
Steve Jobs – Passionate evangelist.
You can adapt your style, but don’t exceed your “comfort zone”:
Bill Gates – Brilliant technologist  great strategist.
Steve Ballmer – Powerful salesman  trustworthy CEO.
Steve Jobs – Passionate evangelist  technology visionary.

What You’ll Learn Today
Communication skills
Preparing the Talk
Delivering the Talk
Handling Q&A
21 secrets to becoming a good speaker.
Q&A is your chance to:
Amplify your points.
Increase your credibility.

Dealing with Questions

Easy Questions.
Amplify your points!
Hard Questions.
No need to answer directly.
But don’t hide!
Narrow Questions.
Take offline.

#1 Anybody can learn to give a good talk.

#2 Don’t give a talk unless you’re passionate.

#3 Use simple and clear words.

#4 Play your voice to focus on key points.

#5 Silence is a great tool.

#7 Tell them what you’re going to say.
Say it.
Tell them what you said.

#8 Have ONE clear central message for:
the question “How was the talk”

#9 Open your talk with something thought-provoking

#10 Slides should be simple & clear.

#11 Don’t read from your slides.

#12 Order your demos

#13 Rehearse & listen to each talk
at least twice!

#14 Time your talk on every slide.

#15 It may be OK to read from a script.

#16 Stay awake!

#16 Stay awake!
Drink 3 cups of coffee before your talk.

#17 It is possible to hide nervousness.

#18 Tailor your opening remarks
to the occasion.


#19 “If you only remember one thing from
this talk, you should remember XXX”


Drink 3 cups of coffee before your talk.

#20 Humor & Interactivity must be
relevant and well-planned.

#21 Q&A can help you
more than the audience.

Giving a talk is easy.
It just takes:
A little passion.
A lot of practice!

Advantages of Internet

Introduction:

During his evolution journey from Neanderthals to Homo erectus and then to Homo sapiens, man has come long way. Because of his continuous quest for more and more amenities and facilities, the nineties have seen a major turn around with the invention of computers. 10 years ago, the term internet was practically anonymous to most of the people. And today internet has become the most ever powerful tool for man throughout the world. The internet is a collection of various services and resources.

Although, many people still think e-mail and World Wide Web as the principle constituents of internet, there is lot more in store than e-mail, chat rooms, celebrity web sites and search engines. It also became the best business tool of modern scenario. Today internet has brought a globe in a single room. Right from news across the corner of the world, wealth of knowledge to shopping, purchasing the tickets of your favorite movie-everything is at your finger tips. Internet has great potential and lot to offer… however, like every single innovation in science and technology, internet has its own advantages and disadvantages.

Advantages:

Communication:
The foremost target of internet has always been the communication. And internet has excelled beyond the expectations .Still; innovations are going on to make it faster, more reliable. By the advent of computer’s Internet, our earth has reduced and has attained the form of a global village.

Now we can communicate in a fraction of second with a person who is sitting in the other part of the world. Today for better communication, we can avail the facilities of e-mail; we can chat for hours with our loved ones. There are plenty messenger services in offering. With help of such services, it has become very easy to establish a kind of global friendship where you can share your thoughts, can explore other cultures of different ethnicity.

Information
Information is probably the biggest advantage internet is offering. The Internet is a virtual treasure trove of information. Any kind of information on any topic under the sun is available on the Internet. The search engines like Google, yahoo is at your service on the Internet. You can almost find any type of data on almost any kind of subject that you are looking for. There is a huge amount of information available on the internet for just about every subject known to man, ranging from government law and services, trade fairs and conferences, market information, new ideas and technical support, the list is end less.

Students and children are among the top users who surf the Internet for research. Today, it is almost required that students should use the Internet for research for the purpose of gathering resources. Teachers have started giving assignments that require research on the Internet. Almost every coming day, researches on medical issues become much easier to locate. Numerous web sites available on the net are offering loads of information for people to research diseases and talk to doctors online at sites such as, America’s Doctor. During 1998 over 20 million people reported going online to retrieve health information.

Entertainment
Entertainment is another popular raison d'être why many people prefer to surf the Internet. In fact, media of internet has become quite successful in trapping multifaceted entertainment factor. Downloading games, visiting chat rooms or just surfing the Web are some of the uses people have discovered. There are numerous games that may be downloaded from the Internet for free. The industry of online gaming has tasted dramatic and phenomenal attention by game lovers. Chat rooms are popular because users can meet new and interesting people. In fact, the Internet has been successfully used by people to find life long partners. When people surf the Web, there are numerous things that can be found. Music, hobbies, news and more can be found and shared on the Internet.

Services
Many services are now provided on the internet such as online banking, job seeking, purchasing tickets for your favorite movies, guidance services on array of topics engulfing the every aspect of life, and hotel reservations. Often these services are not available off-line and can cost you more.

E-Commerce
Ecommerce is the concept used for any type of commercial maneuvering, or business deals that involves the transfer of information across the globe via Internet. It has become a phenomenon associated with any kind of shopping, almost anything. You name it and Ecommerce with its giant tentacles engulfing every single product and service will make you available at your door steps. It has got a real amazing and wide range of products from household needs, technology to entertainment.

E-mail:
E-mail is an online correspondence system. With e-mail you can send and receive instant electronic messages, which works like writing letters. Your messages are delivered instantly to people anywhere in the world, unlike traditional mail that takes a lot of time.

Access Information
The Internet is a virtual treasure trove of information. Any kind of information on any topic under the sun is available on the Internet. The ‘search engines’ on the Internet can help you to find data on any subject that you need.
Shopping:
Along with getting information on the Internet, you can also shop online. There are many online stores and sites that can be used to look for products as well as buy them using your credit card. You do not need to leave your house and can do all your shopping from the convenience of your home.
Online Chat:
There are many ‘chat rooms’ on the web that can be accessed to meet new people, make new friends, as well as to stay in touch with old friends.
Downloading Software: This is one of the most happening and fun things to do via the Internet. You can download innumerable, games, music, videos, movies, and a host of other entertainment software from the Internet, most of which are free.


Disadvantages :

Difficulty in Attracting Customers
Small business may not have the resources to pay for paid directory inclusion, pay per click inclusions and often have to rely solely on search engine optimisation or word of mouth to drive traffic to their sites. With millions of businesses selling the same product and services, competing with more established businesses can be frustrating and costly venture for small business.
On the other hand, larger companies can offer promotions, pay for directory inclusions, implement pay per click campaigns as well as employ the “who is who” in internet marketing to develop campaigns that generate traffic and leads.
Difficulty in Evaluating Legitimacy of Transaction
Another notable disadvantage of doing promoting businesses online is that it may be difficult for the businesspersons and consumers to thoroughly evaluate the legitimacy of a transaction. Small businesses are particularly vulnerable to thieves using stolen credit cards and stolen information to do online transaction.
With Internet credit card and identity fraud on the rise, small businesses are forced to finance costly security measures to reduce their vulnerability to fraudulent transactions.
Salespersons and Customers are Isolated
Another disadvantage of promotion via the Internet is that the customers and businesspersons are isolated. There is little personal contact between customer and salesperson prior to and after the sales is closed. Thus, the prospect for repeat sales may thus be diminished. Entrepreneurs are therefore compelled to adopt marketing strategies to drive online users back to their site.
From all indications, it appears that the advantages of Internet promotion, far exceed the disadvantages. With adequate knowledge, entrepreneur can benefit significantly from Internet promotion, especially small business owners.


Theft of Personal information
If you use the Internet, you may be facing grave danger as your personal information such as name, address, credit card number etc. can be accessed by other culprits to make your problems worse.

Spamming:
Spamming refers to sending unwanted e-mails in bulk, which provide no purpose and needlessly obstruct the entire system. Such illegal activities can be very frustrating for you, and so instead of just ignoring it, you should make an effort to try and stop these activities so that using the Internet can become that much safer.

Virus threat
Virus is nothing but a program which disrupts the normal functioning of your computer systems. Computers attached to internet are more prone to virus attacks and they can end up into crashing your whole hard disk, causing you considerable headache.

Pornography:
This is perhaps the biggest threat related to your children’s healthy mental life. A very serious issue concerning the Internet. There are thousands of pornographic sites on the Internet that can be easily found and can be a detrimental factor to letting children use the Internet.

Though, internet can also create havoc, destruction and its misuse can be very fatal, the advantages of it outweigh its disadvantages.

Personal Information: If you use the Internet, your personal information such as your name, address, etc. can be accessed by other people. If you use a credit card to shop online, then your credit card information can also be ‘stolen’ which could be akin to giving someone a blank check.